Sneak Peak: Wait (or you’ll settle).
God is amazing! He will speak to you in ways that people may find odd. God is always here if you are open to listening to Him. Since this is authenticallybrittany.com, I’ll be authentic with you. I’ve been praying for my spouse. I know, I know. Yikes! This doesn’t mean that I’m breaking away from my mission to encourage single women to live their best life. However, I will acknowledge that many single Christian women do desire marriage. It shouldn’t revolve our lives, but the desires are there for us. So, what’s happening with me?
It's Dry Out Here
My dating life has been dry. Dry as the Sahara Desert. My interactions with men have been weird. I’ve made friends with good godly men, but none of them were interested in me. I met Christian men in my abstinence group, and it went nowhere. I met men in my day-to-day interactions, then, poof. Gone. I’m thankful God blocked those men because they were not for me, but it’s dry out here! Like, God, what’s happening? Am I meant to be a wife?!
Then, God spoke to me. Three times, actually. First, was in the Bible. The second time was through a podcast (not joking, the podcast uploaded that morning I before I went for my morning walk), and through YouTube (something I'd never watch popped up and talked about patience). Eventually, I got the message, "You're in a waiting season. Sit down!"
Plan: DIY feat. Abraham and Sarah
This week, I was reading the story of Abraham, Sarah, and Hagar. Long story short, Sarah got impatient. She had a plan: pimp her servant, Hagar, to sleep with Abraham. Tada! A kid. Makes sense, right? What’s funny is that Abraham was told by God HIMSELF, that he’d have a child (Genesis 15:2-5). Yet, he agreed to sleep with Hagar. Both of them decided to take a shortcut approach to get something and it ended up causing a headache in their household (thankfully, God spared Hagar and blessed Ishmael with his own descendants). You can read about this in Genesis 16:1-16 and Genesis 21:8-21. Are you dating for a good time and not a long time? I get it. Your situation may not be the best for a marriage, but why not date for fun? You're bored. You're lonely. You're horny. I get it. But, is that what God has for you?
Rejection is Protection and Redirection
“To the angel of the church in Philadelphia write:
These are the words of him who is holy and true, who holds the key of David. What he opens no one can shut, and what he shuts no one can open. (Revelation 3:7) NIV
Only God can open and shut a door. Sometimes, we need to use discernment to determine if we're walking through the right door. You may meet men in life that may be potential suitors, but you need to examine the fruit of the individual. It doesn't mean that any marriage will have bumps, but if you're the one who's manipulating, forcing, and pursuing things, then he's not for you. If he is showing a lack of interest, hot-and-cold, being disrespectful, ghosting, or anything that shows he's not pursuing you, then it's over. Move on. One thing I'm learning about men: they're simple to get. You will know if a man wants you or not. Some are a bit craftier and can imitate interest (acting like a boyfriend), but they aren't sealing the deal (moving things to marriage). If it's not for you, well, thank God for protecting you! He knows what's best!
Prepare and Wait
If you’re like me, whos’ in a waiting season, this doesn’t mean you can chill. In fact, now is the time to not waste time. This is the time to prepare. In the words of my small group leader: “God will send it to you when HE believes YOU are ready. Are you truly ready for that?” My question to you is, are you willing to wait, or are you going to go get yours (and end up settling)?
Let me know in the comments and keep things true, pure, and positive! Stay blessed.
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